6 Oct

When Aging Parents Keep Secrets

For some senior citizens, it can be difficult to accept the fact that they are aging and might not be able to keep their full independence. Because of this, there are many things that people who are reaching old age will try and keep secret from their family and friends. They might not technically lie about things but will simply withhold information or make excuses for certain behaviors. They could be afraid of losing their independence, embarrassed at their perceived downfall in intelligence or physical prowess, or just not willing to accept any help. It can be very difficult for children of aging parents to realize that their parents need help, and even more difficult to get them to agree to changes in their lifestyle.

Here are some of the top things that aging parents will keep from their children or other close relatives to avoid any consequences:

1.Auto accidents – losing the ability to drive is a major fear of many senior citizens; if they have minor accidents, fender benders or traffic violations they often wont tell their family for fear of losing their license

2.Falls – falling can be a major problem with aging parents whose sense of balance and strength can be weaker as they get older; they might hide bruising or even strains or broken bones

3.Pain or dizziness – sometimes people keep these things secret just so family members wont worry and to avoid a trip to the physician

4.Financial trouble – things such as overwhelming debt, frivolous spending, or even gambling problems are common secrets that parents keep from their families to avoid having to share their financial information and perhaps losing access to their money

5.Elder abuse – if parents already have caregivers who are mistreating them, they often hide this from family members out of fear and embarrassment; if they are taken advantage of by unscrupulous telemarketers or even other family members, they might hide this secret, too, to avoid any further trouble.

Sometimes family members must pry into the financial, emotional, or physical matters of their elderly relatives just to make sure that everything is safe and in order.