The names our parents give us dont make us but never the less they are part of our identity; more often than not they stay with us throughout our lives. Almost immediately after conception, the first task that expecting parents tackle is choosing a name for their baby.
So, you are a parent-to-be and after a considerable amount of time of research and thinking you finally have settled on the one and only name for your baby. However, the process is not quite over yet. There is one more decision to be made: whether to reveal the name to the others or to keep it a secret till the baby finally arrives. There is no right or wrong way. Some couples think it is okay for them to share the baby name and get the input of the rest of the family and friends, others prefer not to share their pick at all.
In most cases grandparents and immediate family appreciate being kept in the loop. A positive aspect of sharing your choice is that by doing so you can get an idea of what impact the baby name has on other family members and provide them with an early chance to embrace and accept it. Sharing might trigger disclosure of some additional information about a distant aunt with the same name which can make your choice entirely undesirable. Also, you might learn how popular the name is in your community or if any of your also expecting friends have already chosen the same name. Generally, parents are not very thrilled when their Violet plays with three more in the park.
Still most parents prefer to keep their choice of baby name under wraps until the baby is born. This is primarily because they dont want to deal with any unwelcoming comments about their preferred baby name. It also helps keeping off family members and friends that at times are too eager to choose your babys name for you. Upon hearing the news a lot of relatives forget that its quite a personal matter and are more than ready to contribute their views and opinions. You can be spared this unwanted interference simply by not sharing your choice of a baby name. Some other factors, like tradition and beliefs, keep parents from disclosing the name before the birth as it might bring bad luck to the baby. Also, parents might have a last minute change of heart and pick a new name in which case they do not have to explain or justify their decision to anyone. Some simply want to keep their childs name a surprise.
Whatever approach you decide on, whether to share and announce your babys name in advance or to keep it as a surprise, it is entirely your choice. Stay positive about your decision and dont allow anybody elses reservations and doubts overwhelm you. Ultimately, you have the final say!